Why unmarried men cheat

Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex. A lack of thoughtful gestures," Gary says. They just don't look like that. Or they don't seem like that. Or they don't tell you that. Josh says he cheated on his wife, Jennifer, because he felt underappreciated at home and started feeling insecure. With daily worries like bills, children and chores, Gary says it's easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should.

Gary says the other woman often makes the man feel better about himself. Makes them feel appreciated, admired," he says. But on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued. Men have a winning mentality, Gary says. Just think about how the men in your life act while watching their favorite sports teams.

It looks like that. But as long as they're in the game, even to the very end, they'll watch. Once it's a blowout and they know their team can't win, television goes off. And what a lot of men will say to me through this research is, 'I just felt like I couldn't win. But if you want to secure your relationship and understand and have the knowledge of men, make them feel like they're winning with the things that they do for you.

Don't be afraid to praise your partner or tell him that you appreciate what he does, Gary says. We all want the same thing," he says. How often does a man cheat on his wife with a woman who's more attractive? Not as often as you may think. Gary found that 88 percent of the men surveyed said the other women were no better looking or in no better shape than their own wives. For the first five years of his marriage , AJ says things were rocky with his wife, Janet. I went downstairs every time I came home from work," he says.

That's why so many older men wouldn't even think of cheating on their wives. It's too exhausting. Women swear up and down that looks are not nearly as important to them as they are to men, that a woman will not hesitate to marry an unattractive man if he has other compensatory qualities, such as a sense of humor or a highly developed intellect or a villa in Tuscany.

I only believe the part about the villa in Tuscany. I personally cannot recall the last time I saw an attractive woman with a hideous man, and I keep my eyes peeled for this sort of thing. You might see a 10 with an 8, or an 8 with a 5, but you never see a 9 with a 2.

And that's the reason ugly men do not cheat on their wives. An ugly man is so happy that he found one woman willing to gaze at his baleful countenance for the next 40 years that there is no way he is going to risk everything by cheating on her. Having an extramarital affair takes money. Even if you don't have to shell out for airplane tickets and hotel rooms, sooner or later you're going to have to pony up for meals, flowers, chocolates, theater tickets, lingerie.

According to a Gallup poll, only 6 percent of Americans view cheating as acceptable. And 64 percent say that it is an unforgivable offense. Which means that the risks are enormous. Many men would cheat on their wives if they thought they could get away with it, but know that they can't get away with it because they're sloppy, forgetful, disorganized, dumb.

They're going to put the motel charge on their credit card instead of paying cash. Or they're going to pay cash for the three-hour day rate in the motel but forget to tell the seedy desk clerk in the Black Sabbath T-shirt not to put the minibar charges on the Visa. They're going to make too many late-night calls to the same mysterious phone number in Vegas or Amarillo or Buenos Aires. They're going to get caught, they know they're going to get caught, and they don't want to have to deal with the consequences of getting caught.

And that's why they don't cheat. If they coulda, they woulda. But they couldn't, so they didn't. And if your girlfriend lives in another city, the travel will eventually wear you down. Just because you'd like to cheat doesn't automatically mean that you're going to find someone willing to take you in. Much like the ugly guys, boring guys count their lucky stars that they were able to find one woman capable of staying awake while they moan about the latest Financial Accounting Standards Board standards or complain that no one ever plays Seals and Crofts or Bobby Vinton at weddings anymore.

Finding a second woman who would put up with this stuff can be a stretch. In proposing all this, I do not mean to disparage the millions and millions of men who remain scrupulously faithful to their wives because they love them, honor them, cherish them and can't imagine ever being unfaithful to them. Those guys are great; those guys rule the world. In this case, some Millennials are still traumatized by the recession and struggling to launch their careers.

Why screw it up? The peak in the divorce rate was in , right as the oldest Millennials were being born and younger Gen Xers were reaching their tender grade-school years. Millennials are much more likely to be the children of divorce than their children will be, if current trends continue. They want to divorce-proof their marriage. For some young people, fidelity is a way of vowing to do better than your own parents did. And I never wanted my kids to grow up the way that I did.

In other words, yes, it might simply be the case that people over 55 are getting older, growing uninterested, and applying the looser sexual mores they grew up in to sex lives that have gotten a little stale.

Skip to content Site Navigation The Atlantic. A better understanding of all the issues related to extramarital sex may help improve treatment. The researchers say they also found that attitudes about extramarital sex are growing slightly more relaxed. And again, there were gender differences in these attitudes. Men were less likely to report that extramarital sex was always wrong.

The research also showed that the number of married people who reported ever having sex with someone other than their spouse decreased between and , albeit by a small percentage. Specifically, lifetime prevalence of extramarital sex decreased from As for why people cheat, Whisman says prior experiences of extramarital sex, more permissive attitudes towards extramarital sex, and a greater acceptance of casual sex are all related to a greater likelihood of engaging in extramarital sex.